Welcome back to Mental Health Mondays with FCF!
Today we'll be discussing worthiness and the effects of worth on our levels of productivity.
Let me ask you this: have you ever felt insecure in a job or project because you aren't sure what you bring to the table? Do you ever feel like maybe you aren't cut out for something even though your resume says you definitely are? Maybe you're even overqualified for it, but you still hold on to feelings of insecurity? Have you even been so initially excited by a project that you couldn't wait to start, only to find yourself pulling back once the project became more tangible?
If you answered yes to any of the above questions, then you, my friend, don't know your own worth.
When we talk about a person's worth, we don't mean the money in their bank account or the property they own. This is less about monetary assets and more about your assets as a human being.
Entrepreneurs, artists, and pretty much anyone that doesn't have an ego the size of the moon all suffer from insecurities that can sometimes hold us back from doing what we are supposed to do.
You're afraid. We get that. But everybody is afraid of something and nobody really knows what they're doing in life. You may think that an extra couple of classes or one more point on your resume will make feelings of unworthiness go away, but they won't. In fact, the longer you wait to confront those feelings, the bigger they will grow. And they'll start to negatively affect your life.
When we stop ourselves from achieving a goal because we feel that we just 'aren't ready yet', we are sabotaging ourselves before we can actually fail. Because failure is exactly what you believe will happen, right? Your mind automatically assumes the worst because you have been reenforcing a negative self-perception. And it hampers your ability to see the great things that may happen if you don't fail.
The opportunity presented might lead to a huge pay raise or a bump in client sales. It might be your big break or your long-awaited promotion. But when you second-guess your worth, what you are really saying to the universe, your friends, and yourself is that you don't value yourself enough to even take the chance that you might succeed. You may say that you aren't ready, but the underlying truth is that you don't believe in yourself.
And THAT is how you know with absolute certainty that you don't know your own worth.
Feeling unworthy of an opportunity, a partnership, or even just a one-off gig is not uncommon. There's a whole syndrome, Impostor Syndrome, related to it. And most of the people you meet in your professional life probably have it.
The thing about Impostor Syndrome is that it robs you of both your past accomplishments and your future achievements. It does this by paralyzing you with - you guessed it - fear of failure. You become afraid to try, afraid you'll be found out as a total fake. You worry that clients or coaches will realize that you've actually been faking it this whole time and your appearance as an adult is just that: an appearance.
In truth, you are probably totally capable of doing that new thing that scares the crap out of you. You are probably completely ready and equipped to handle new responsibilities that come your way. You just have to acknowledge that this feeling of unworthiness is totally common - we experience it pretty much every day - and fight the bastard off. Don't let fears of not being good enough stop you from claiming your right to try - and to succeed.
Because the reality is this: you are worthy.
You're worthy of every opportunity, every project, every job, everything that you could want. It's there for you, waiting for you to take it. If an employer or a brand or a client has done their homewor